Control what you can, surrender what you can’t

By choosing to control what you can – and only what you can – you take your power back.

I’m an advocate for self-empowerment. It is the cornerstone of my personal development journey.

What does it mean to be self-empowered?

Essentially: To be in control, or to have autonomy over oneself – extending (but not limited) to self-beliefs, emotions and actions.

In empowering yourself, bear in mind the following:

Control what you can, surrender what you can’t (control).

We cannot control our external environment – other people and our future.

We CAN control out internal environment – our thoughts and emotions.

When we fail to take control of our inner world, we become victims, powerless to circumstances, the actions of others and even to our own thoughts and emotions.

You have more control than you think.

To be self-empowered is to govern yourself and your inner world. By choosing to control what you can (your personal life) you take your power back – and there is so much power to tap into when your really get to know yourself. All of the peace, fulfillment and love that you desire resides within.

What you can’t control:

1. The specifics of how your future will pan out, including job opportunities and world events.

2. The way in which you change or influence others, if at all.

3. The thoughts, actions and behaviours of others.

Therefore: LET IT GO, and focus on that which you can control.

What you can control:

1. The thoughts you have in response to something that has happened.

2. Your emotional state. Your emotions are autonomous to begin with – but you have the power to shift them once you’re aware of them.

3. The way you spend your time. The self-empowered person makes time for activities that bring them personal fulfilment on a regular basis – in this way, directly influencing their health and sense of freedom and happiness.

‘Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.’

-Arthur Ashe